Early on in my adulthood, I was actively pursuing an education degree. Although I did not finish the degree I learned some valuable lessons that have helped me to be a better parent. The best lesson learned has to be, avoiding power struggles. This lesson has really benefitted me in my journey as a mother. Richard Miller’s article reiterated this lesson and gave me new insight. “What is the power relationship in your marriage?” This was interesting to me as I haven’t ever necessarily thought about avoiding power struggles or sharing power with my husband and how it would affect our family dynamics.
Gordon B. Hinkley, former prophet states, "I’ve tried to recognize my wife’s individuality, her personality, her desires, her background, her ambitions. Let her fly. Yes, let her fly! Let her develop her own talents. Let her do things her way. Get out of her way, and marvel at what she does…If there is anything that concerns me, it is that some men try to run their wife’s life and tell her everything she ought to do. It will not work. There will not be happiness in the lives of the children nor of the parents where the man tries to run everything and control his wife. They are partners. They are companions in this great venture that we call marriage and family life (Marjorie Pay and Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, October 2003, pp. 22, 27).
My husband is a very easy going guy so it is quite easy to bulldoze him if I am not paying attention. He is a District Manager at work so he is more than willing to let me have more power in the home. He recognizes that I have more education and knowledge in childrearing, he sees it as one of my talents. I appreciate the faith that he has in me and the way he allows me to use my education to make decisions in our home. I have always tried to be smart and careful with the power he has trusted me with. I am grateful for a husband that withholds his patriarchal duties and also allows me to do what I do best, be a mother and educator to our children.
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